Small changes can make a big difference, big changes managed carefully can work!

Everyday we have to change things up, for example changing our clothes for the ever changing weather, changing the bedding as it needs washing, changing tv channels. We do this without even considering that it is a change..

When does making a change become overwhelming and why is it that we can make some changes very easily and some we don’t even want to think about?

Some changes may seem quite insignificant but can make a huge difference to our life. We find good reasons why we should make the change, for the changes that are significant

How do you as a family make important decisions to change something?

We tend to make changes when it is more likely to bring quick and easy benefits, those changes tend to be pretty small, like changing the room around, reorganising a wardrobe, changing the colour on a wall in our house.

Some people have a fear of the unknown in relation to change.

When I was married, I lived with my husband, who was an only child with older parents who did not drive and were not very mobile. We lived in Reading about 25 miles away from his family, who we regularly visited as 25 miles is not such a great distance when you have a car.

We made a decision to move a lot further away a further 2 hours/170 miles further away down to Devon but decided not to tell his family, as we knew exactly what would happen, they would be upset thinking they would never see us and feel abandoned.

So we moved to Devon and didn’t tell them, but they did not realise as we came back pretty much every other weekend. We did eventually tell them and they then realised that the distance was not a problem and they were not being deserted therefore no major drama.

Sometimes we make decisions but have other people to consider and ensure we get the execution of the change right for everyone including ourselves.

We knew that any change we made would impact my husband’s family in a big way, so the situation was managed and it all worked fine in the end as we knew it would.

Sometimes it goes that what someone doesn’t know, won’t hurt them - this was the case in this situation.

We can make temporary changes in order to achieve a goal and if they work great, but if not, it’s a learning not a failure and we just try something different.

The biggest barriers to change can be:

Fear of failing - what is failure? Failure is simply just a lesson, if it doesn’t work the first time,, then what do you need to change. You learn nothing without failing a few times.

Imposter syndrome - your inner critic telling you you can’t do it - what can you do to quieten the noisy inner critic in your head - when have you done something similar - how did you overcome and achieve that.

How can you use your learning and a time when you achieved something similar to make changes in your life today? There is always a way.